Make Me Laugh: A new beginning

So changing gears from my son to my husband…This blog is entitled: Make me laugh…because he did! As many of you know I met my husband online at match.com. So this article is about how we met…which, if you remember from one of my Simon articles, I mentioned why we chose the names: Simon Matthew; God is listening, and gift from God (respectively).

I had a pretty good life…I was married to a man I met while I was in high school (he was 7 years old than me), had two kids, graduated from college, and found a job that I loved. The only problem was, my husband apparently wasn’t so happy. We divorced after 9 years of marriage…leaving me 28 years old…and a single mom…old…in my book. I spent my 20’s paying a mortgage, two car payments, day care payments and student loans, working various jobs (retail, McDonalds, a bank teller, preschool teacher). I thought I was happy. I wanted the fairy tale…like most of us girls do…and thought a marriage proposal would get me that. I thought…well…I’m married…I can now be happy! Boy was I wrong! Marriage was hard! Responsibility was hard! I would show up at class in college and while most students didn’t have their work completed because they were partying, I not only had mine completed, but had my husbands clothes ironed, the bills paid and was up all night with a fussy baby!

Needless to say my degree was one of my proudest moments. Everyone said that once I got married I wouldn’t finish…so I HAD to…to prove them wrong! My dad was the main one that said “YOU’RE GOING TO COLLEGE!” He said that I needed to have a back-up plan, a way to support myself if I ever needed to…hmmm…interesting…

So my world came to screeching halt in September of 2005. I now found myself not only having to make a house payment, utilities, and daycare on my own…I needed to find an attorney. Man…I should’ve been a lawyer! These guys are loaded…and arrogant! Geesh! (sorry if there are any attorneys reading this… J) It took about 8 months for the whole process to be final…we argued over everything…child support, alimony, whose fault it was…but one thing was for sure…probably another proud moment in my life…I handled my divorce with dignity. I wanted to do it right. I struggled with how God felt about divorce and if I had done everything I could to make it work. In the end it wasn’t up to me. I filed, but he ended it, he moved on WAY before it was final. I was faithful to that man until the papers were signed by the judge and filed. May 17…the day my divorce went on record! I’m free! So…now what? How on earth do I meet people? Let’s see…I was 16 the last time I was single. I was thin, cute, young, with my whole world ahead of me. Now I’m OLD, saggy, with baggage. I now work at a preschool…with all women…I don’t want to end up alone…but I don’t know any men…so I need to get out there! And I don’t just want any man…I want THE man! My soul mate…the one I was made for. A Godly man…